Saturday, May 02, 2009

Blabbing

I have honestly let the personal (to me) aspect of this go. But it's still touching our lives and my choice is to either go mute, write of inconsequential things.. or to blab.

Blabbing:

A few weeks ago, Lou tried to help a woman by offering her friendship as a form of support. Her intention was misread and the woman became extremely upset when Lou set her straight. Upset to the degree that she became verbally abusive and threatening...

Because they knew eachother through work, and the degree of abuse Lou received, we decided it best she informed her superiors in the event the woman tried to retaliate professionally. Though we felt they'd agree the employers couldn't be affected by this drama, we worried it wouldn't stop the woman from trying and didn't want this landing on someone's desk by way of a surprise complaint. Lou went in, told the story to three in senior management and we were reassured she'd done nothing wrong, that professionally she was safe.

Now, after Lou told her boss what had happened.. and I mean everything, came clean... they agreed that she couldn't have anything more to do with the woman and that she shouldn't talk about it, creating any bias in others. The timing of their mistake of a friendship couldn't have been more perfect as it protected Lou herself from any claim of intentional bias (pos or neg), her professional involvement had been nearly concluded by then anyway .. and being removed from that point on was the responsible thing for all parties concerned.

Since then, the whole freaky thing has been invisible. No more had come and it's felt like she exposed the episode for no good reason at all.

Until yesterday.

The woman had to answer for a couple of events that predate the shit with Lou. It looks like she's trying desperately to shift the blame to others and avoiding any admission of her own responsibility. Yesterday she found out that wasn't working.

In the midst of this woman's having to answer for those other events, she's realised Lou isn't working with her any longer. In spite of telling Lou she didn't want her involved with her work, the woman wrote to Lou's colleague demanding to know why. As all correspondence is now to be through their boss, this question was dutifully forwarded. We don't know if it was answered.

I think she's freaked out now. Yesterday she sent an email to Lou's work addy informing her she'd 'had to tell an advisor all that had happened'.

It's our opinion that the woman is widening her scope, going with the shotgun approach now and intending to blame anyone and everyone, perhaps even burn the house down to distract from the shit she created.

It's probably no surprise we were up until two o'clock last night, analysing each and every angle we could come up with. Lou and I talked away two bottles of wine, trying to anticipate the woman's behaviour. Sad really, when we know there's nothing we can do about the situation, that it's all out of our hands. I guess we just don't want to be surprised and have a need to reassure ourselves that no matter what approach, Loubie really is covered.

The only house the woman will be torching is her own and we can only sit and watch the smoke.




3 comments:

Anonymous said...

What an uncomfortable situation. It makes me cringe just thinking about it. Hugs

Anonymous said...

Good job on Loubie getting it out in the open on day one. The woman will simply implode one day...a messy end, but at least Lou won't be doing clean up

Anonymous said...

Loubie handled it superbly; well done.

It seriously bites that one can reach out in offer of friendship and have it come back like some bear chasing you through the woods.

And the wine? Why, if ya have any left, pass a glass across the pond!

nelle